Womb Healing After Surgery: The Disconnection No One Talks About
Womb surgery is a quiet trauma. This is something I can relate to, I have had many gynae surgeries, none of them explained clearly, all of them booked in without any discussion as to what was really happening, no aftercare to discuss how this would impact my emotional or physical wellbeing.
I had the operation, was sent home and that was it… I just got on with life. The exhaustion was so debilitating I used to go into work, find a quiet room and fall asleep, hoping no one would walk in and find me. The tiredness was relentless, it was deep within my soul, there was no real recovery time.
No time to grieve what had happened, to time to process anything, if only I knew…
Whether it's a hysterectomy, fibroid removal, endometriosis, oopherectomy, salpingectomy or another gynaecological procedure — the focus is often on recovery of the body, but the emotional and spiritual recovery is rarely spoken of.
And yet, through decades of listening to women in my treatment room— I’ve heard a common thread;
“I feel like something is missing… but I don’t know who to tell.”
The Silence Around Womb Loss
For many women, surgery is life-saving or pain-relieving. But even when it’s “necessary,” the aftermath can feel confusing, isolating, and strangely invisible.
There are no community rituals to honour a womb that’s been taken.
There are no grief groups for the uterus.
No language for the emotional ache that lingers.
Instead, there’s often:
Relief, mixed with unexpected grief
Fatigue beyond the physical
A strange disconnection from femininity, sensuality, or creativity
A loss that isn’t recognised, even by those closest to you
And when menopause enters the scene — either suddenly (as with surgical menopause) or later on — these unresolved layers rise again.
Womb Energy Still Lives Within You
My vision is to support woman so they know that;
Even if your womb has been removed or altered…
Even if you can’t feel her physically…
Even if you haven’t thought of her in years…
Your womb energy still lives within you.
Your womb is more than an organ.
It is a centre of:
Creativity
Emotional processing
Sensuality & sexual energy
Intuition & inner knowing
Feminine rhythm & power
When this space is wounded — physically or emotionally — we often experience a kind of energetic amnesia. A forgetting. A numbness.
This is the disconnection.
No, it’s not your fault, you are not to blame… and yes, it can be healed.
What Womb Disconnection Can Look Like
Feeling flat, stuck, or emotionally ‘numb’
Difficulty expressing your needs or accessing desire
A sudden loss of motivation or creativity
Chronic lower back, hip, or digestive issues
Feeling like you’ve lost your “spark” as a woman
For many women in menopause, these feelings intensify — not because menopause is a problem, but because it is a time of reckoning and reawakening. The body whispers truths we’ve tucked away for years.
Reclaiming the Womb Space
Healing your womb isn’t about reversing surgery.
It’s about reconnecting to a vital part of you — on an energetic, emotional, and spiritual level.
Here are a few gentle practices that can support your healing:
1. Daily Womb Touch
Place your hands over your lower belly. Breathe.
Say softly: “I remember you. I honour you.”
This small act can reawaken a sense of presence in your body.
2. Aromatherapy Anointing
Use essential oils like:
Rose for grief and softness
Frankincense for reconnection
Clary Sage for womb wisdom
Dilute in a carrier oil and massage gently over your belly and heart. Let this be a sacred moment of self-love.
3. Womb Journaling
Ask yourself:
What does my womb want me to hear today?
What grief have I not given space to?
What kind of woman am I becoming now?
Let the answers come without judgment.
4. Create a Womb Altar
This can be a candle, a red cloth, a flower, or a crystal placed in your space with intention. Visit it when you feel disconnected.
You Are Not Broken
Womb healing isn’t about returning to who you were — it’s about becoming who you’re meant to be, with all your scars, wisdom, and softness intact.
You are whole.
You are worthy of tending.
Your womb — visible or invisible — still holds power.
If this speaks to you, know that you’re not alone.
This is the work I hold space for.
This is the healing I guide women through — gently, soulfully, sacredly.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Advanced Menopause Coach/ Mentor • Master Aromatherapist •
Making Menopause a Movement not a Mystery
