Grounding Practices for Inner Stability
Grounding Practices for Inner Stability
When emotions feel overwhelming, grounding techniques can help bring a sense of stability and security. These simple yet effective practices will help reconnect you with your body and the present moment.
Grounding Techniques to Try:
Earthing: Walk barefoot on grass or soil to reconnect with nature and absorb its calming energy.
5-4-3-2-1 Sensory Exercise: Identify five things you see, four things you touch, three things you hear, two things you smell, and one thing you taste to bring awareness to the present.
Breathwork: Try deep belly breathing by inhaling for four counts, holding for four, and exhaling for four to calm the nervous system.
Body Scan Meditation: Lie down and bring awareness to each part of your body, releasing any tension you notice.
Holding a Comfort Object: Whether it’s a crystal, a soft fabric, or a meaningful item, holding something tangible can provide reassurance and grounding.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Womb Healing After Surgery: The Disconnection No One Talks About
Womb surgery is a quiet trauma. This is something I can relate to, I have had many gynae surgeries, none of them explained clearly, all of them booked in without any discussion as to what was really happening, no aftercare to discuss how this would impact my emotional or physical wellbeing.
I had the operation, was sent home and that was it… I just got on with life. The exhaustion was so debilitating I used to go into work, find a quiet room and fall asleep, hoping no one would walk in and find me. The tiredness was relentless, it was deep within my soul, there was no real recovery time.
No time to grieve what had happened, to time to process anything, if only I knew…
Whether it's a hysterectomy, fibroid removal, endometriosis, oopherectomy, salpingectomy or another gynaecological procedure — the focus is often on recovery of the body, but the emotional and spiritual recovery is rarely spoken of.
And yet, through decades of listening to women in my treatment room— I’ve heard a common thread;
“I feel like something is missing… but I don’t know who to tell.”
The Silence Around Womb Loss
For many women, surgery is life-saving or pain-relieving. But even when it’s “necessary,” the aftermath can feel confusing, isolating, and strangely invisible.
There are no community rituals to honour a womb that’s been taken.
There are no grief groups for the uterus.
No language for the emotional ache that lingers.
Instead, there’s often:
Relief, mixed with unexpected grief
Fatigue beyond the physical
A strange disconnection from femininity, sensuality, or creativity
A loss that isn’t recognised, even by those closest to you
And when menopause enters the scene — either suddenly (as with surgical menopause) or later on — these unresolved layers rise again.
Womb Energy Still Lives Within You
My vision is to support woman so they know that;
Even if your womb has been removed or altered…
Even if you can’t feel her physically…
Even if you haven’t thought of her in years…
Your womb energy still lives within you.
Your womb is more than an organ.
It is a centre of:
Creativity
Emotional processing
Sensuality & sexual energy
Intuition & inner knowing
Feminine rhythm & power
When this space is wounded — physically or emotionally — we often experience a kind of energetic amnesia. A forgetting. A numbness.
This is the disconnection.
No, it’s not your fault, you are not to blame… and yes, it can be healed.
What Womb Disconnection Can Look Like
Feeling flat, stuck, or emotionally ‘numb’
Difficulty expressing your needs or accessing desire
A sudden loss of motivation or creativity
Chronic lower back, hip, or digestive issues
Feeling like you’ve lost your “spark” as a woman
For many women in menopause, these feelings intensify — not because menopause is a problem, but because it is a time of reckoning and reawakening. The body whispers truths we’ve tucked away for years.
Reclaiming the Womb Space
Healing your womb isn’t about reversing surgery.
It’s about reconnecting to a vital part of you — on an energetic, emotional, and spiritual level.
Here are a few gentle practices that can support your healing:
1. Daily Womb Touch
Place your hands over your lower belly. Breathe.
Say softly: “I remember you. I honour you.”
This small act can reawaken a sense of presence in your body.
2. Aromatherapy Anointing
Use essential oils like:
Rose for grief and softness
Frankincense for reconnection
Clary Sage for womb wisdom
Dilute in a carrier oil and massage gently over your belly and heart. Let this be a sacred moment of self-love.
3. Womb Journaling
Ask yourself:
What does my womb want me to hear today?
What grief have I not given space to?
What kind of woman am I becoming now?
Let the answers come without judgment.
4. Create a Womb Altar
This can be a candle, a red cloth, a flower, or a crystal placed in your space with intention. Visit it when you feel disconnected.
You Are Not Broken
Womb healing isn’t about returning to who you were — it’s about becoming who you’re meant to be, with all your scars, wisdom, and softness intact.
You are whole.
You are worthy of tending.
Your womb — visible or invisible — still holds power.
If this speaks to you, know that you’re not alone.
This is the work I hold space for.
This is the healing I guide women through — gently, soulfully, sacredly.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Advanced Menopause Coach/ Mentor • Master Aromatherapist •
Making Menopause a Movement not a Mystery
Herbal Tea Blend for Emotional Balance
Herbs have been used for centuries to support emotional and physical well-being. This gentle herbal tea blend is designed to calm the nervous system, uplift the mood, and nourish the body.
Ingredients:
1 tbsp dried chamomile – Reduces anxiety and promotes relaxation.
1 tbsp dried lemon balm – Uplifts mood and eases tension.
1 tsp dried rose petals – Opens the heart and soothes emotions.
1 tsp dried lavender – Calms the mind and helps with restful sleep.
1 tsp dried passionflower – Supports deep emotional healing and reduces stress.
Instructions:
Combine all herbs in a jar and mix well.
Steep 1 tbsp of the blend in hot water for 5-7 minutes.
Strain and sip slowly, inhaling the soothing aroma.
Drink this tea daily or whenever you need emotional balance.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Understanding Burnout & Betrayal Trauma
My Story
This is a somewhat personal blog, one I had no intention of writing, yet the powers of the universe guide us into spaces where everything just aligns up & to dismiss all of this powerful pull is a reminder of just how far you have walked… & to dismiss this, means you are choosing to ignore all of your pain & courage to get this far… Often without realising it, we just don’t recognise how much courage it takes to stay in your own lane… anyway… here goes...
For years, I was the therapist everyone turned to. I built treatments that worked, created healing environments, and poured my soul into helping others recover. I worked in private practice, in healthcare, in retreats—spaces that were meant to be nurturing, holistic, and soul-led.
But the place that was supposed to support me… broke me.
I was working at a renowned holistic retreat—one that claimed to value healing, integrity, and community. I brought my full self to that space: I designed new treatments, supported high-end clients with deep emotional needs, and even brought in outside professional help to enhance client care. I wasn’t just doing a job—I was elevating the whole experience.
My work brought in income for the retreat. My care brought relief to clients. My vision brought expansion.
But when I asked for fair compensation for the value I was creating—everything changed.
I was met not with respect, but with gaslighting and betrayal trauma. I was told clients had “complained” about me. I was asked if I was “on drugs.” Then I was told to just forget it ever happened. The same person who once praised me, now undermined my confidence, my credibility, and my sense of reality.
That moment shattered me.
It wasn’t just stress—it was a betrayal of my profession, my purpose, and my nervous system. What should have been a conversation about value and integrity became a deep wound to my identity.
I walked out. I went to my doctor. I was signed off with stress.
And I haven’t felt the same about my work since.
For a while, I thought it was my fault. That I was “too much.” That I’d caused trouble. That I’d been unprofessional somehow. But now I know the truth:
I was gaslit. I was exploited. I was betrayed by a system that benefited from my work—but couldn’t honour it.
And I’m not the only one.
Too many therapists, carers, healers and empaths have given their hearts to spaces that didn’t protect them. We’ve been taught to hold space for others, but not to advocate for ourselves.
That season in my life led to burnout, soul fatigue, financial instability, and a complete breakdown of trust—not just in others, but in myself.
But here’s what else it did:
It led me here.
To rebuild with power, softness, and sovereignty.
To become the woman who can hold your story—because she’s walked through her own.
To create a new path for midlife women who are ready to come home to themselves.
*There is so much more I want to add to this… & I will… slowly over time I will add more…
With warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Heart-Opening Meditation for Healing and Clarity
Heart-Opening Meditation for Healing and Clarity
The heart is the center of emotional processing, and when grief or sadness builds up, it can feel blocked. This simple yet powerful heart-opening meditation helps release pain, bring clarity, and invite love back into your life.
How to Practice:
Find a quiet space where you won’t be disturbed.
Sit or lie down comfortably, placing your hands over your heart.
Close your eyes and take slow, deep breaths, inhaling love and exhaling sadness.
Visualize a soft pink light surrounding your heart, warming and healing it.
Repeat affirmations such as:
I am held, I am loved, I am healing.
My heart is open to love and peace.
I release pain and embrace healing.
Stay in this space for as long as you need, allowing emotions to surface and be acknowledged.
When finished, place your hands in prayer position and express gratitude for this moment of self-care.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Navigating Grief: Understanding Anticipatory & Unresolved Loss
Grief is a deeply personal journey—one that doesn’t follow a linear path. Whether it arrives suddenly or lingers in the background, grief shapes us in profound ways. But what happens when we experience loss before it even occurs? Or when grief feels stuck, never fully processed? This is where anticipatory and unresolved grief come into focus.
Understanding Anticipatory Grief:
Anticipatory grief is the mourning that begins before an actual loss occurs. This could be due to a terminal diagnosis, witnessing a loved one’s declining health, or sensing the slow erosion of a relationship. Unlike sudden grief, this form allows us time to prepare, yet it carries its own unique weight. The emotions—fear, sadness, and even guilt—can be just as intense as those felt after a loss.
Signs of Anticipatory Grief:
Feeling sadness or mourning before a loss occurs.
Anxiety about what’s to come.
Emotional numbness or exhaustion.
Deep yearning to make the most of the remaining time.
Unresolved Grief: When Healing Feels Out of Reach
Unresolved grief, sometimes called complicated grief, occurs when emotions surrounding a loss remain stuck. Perhaps life forced you to “move on” too quickly. Maybe the loss was traumatic, unexpected, or left too many unanswered questions. Over time, unresolved grief can manifest as chronic sadness, avoidance, or even physical symptoms like fatigue and headaches.
Signs of Unresolved Grief:
Difficulty talking about the loss, even years later.
Avoidance of reminders or places associated with the loss.
Prolonged feelings of guilt, anger, or deep sorrow.
Struggling to find meaning or purpose after the loss.
Healing Through Holistic Practices:
Healing from grief—whether anticipatory or unresolved—is not about “getting over” a loss but about finding ways to integrate it into our lives with love and understanding. Holistic practices can provide gentle, supportive ways to move through grief with compassion.
Aromatherapy for Emotional Healing:
Lavender: Eases anxiety and promotes emotional calm.
Rose: Encourages emotional warmth and self-compassion.
Frankincense: Helps in grounding and spiritual reflection.
Cypress: Supports transitions and emotional release.
Try diffusing these oils, adding them to a bath, or creating a grief-supporting body oil blend.Rituals for Processing Loss:
Journaling letters to the person or situation you’re grieving.
Creating a memory altar with candles, photos, and objects of meaning.
Practicing mindful breathwork to release stored sorrow.
Community & Connection:
Seeking support groups where you can share and listen.
Engaging in therapy or grief coaching to explore emotions safely.
Connecting with nature to find comfort in the rhythms of life and loss.
Final Thought:
Grief is not something to “fix” but something to honour. It is a reflection of love, of deep connections, and of life’s transitions. Whether you are in the midst of anticipatory grief or struggling with unresolved pain, know that healing is possible—and you are not alone.
✨ If this resonates with you, I invite you to explore more holistic healing strategies on my website. Let’s walk this journey together. ✨
Sacred Bathing Ritual for Emotional Release
Sacred Bathing Ritual for Emotional Release
Water is a powerful element for emotional cleansing and renewal. A sacred bathing ritual can help release stagnant emotions, bring a sense of peace, and reconnect you with yourself. This self-care practice is perfect for those experiencing grief, sadness, or overwhelm.
Sacred Bathing Recipe:
2 cups Epsom salts – Relaxes tense muscles and detoxifies the body.
1/2 cup dried rose petals – Opens the heart and invites self-love.
10 drops Frankincense essential oil – Grounds emotions and promotes spiritual healing.
8 drops Lavender essential oil – Soothes the mind and body for deep relaxation.
6 drops Clary Sage essential oil – Helps to balance emotions and clear mental fog.
Instructions:
Run a warm bath and add all ingredients, swirling the water gently.
Light candles and play soft, soothing music to create a serene environment.
Step into the bath and take deep breaths, allowing the water to support and cleanse you.
Visualize releasing any heavy emotions into the water, feeling lighter with each breath.
When ready, drain the water and imagine negativity leaving your body.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Nourishing Body Oil for Loss, Grief, and Low Mood
Nourishing Body Oil for Loss, Grief, and Low Mood
Grief, loss, and depression can weigh heavily on both the heart and body, leaving us feeling disconnected and drained. In times of emotional healing, self-care rituals can be a powerful way to nurture ourselves, and one of the most soothing rituals is the use of body oils. This deeply nourishing blend is designed to provide comfort, emotional balance, and a sense of grounding for women navigating these difficult emotions.
Ingredients:
50mls Sweet Almond Oil – A gentle, skin-loving oil that provides deep nourishment and hydration.
20mls Jojoba Oil – Balances the skin and helps carry the essential oils deeper into the body.
10mls Rosehip Oil – Rich in vitamins and antioxidants, perfect for skin healing and emotional restoration.
6 drops Frankincense Essential Oil – Encourages deep breathing, emotional healing, and spiritual grounding.
5 drops Lavender Essential Oil – Soothing and calming, it supports relaxation and inner peace.
4 drops Bergamot Essential Oil – Uplifting and balancing, it helps alleviate low moods and depression.
4 drops drops Sandalwood Essential Oil – Anchors emotions and fosters a deep sense of connection and tranquility.
1 drop Rose Essential Oil – Opens the heart, promotes self-love, and offers comfort in grief.
Instructions:
In a clean, dry glass bottle, combine all the carrier oils.
Slowly add each essential oil, swirling the bottle gently to blend.
Store in a cool, dark place for at least 24 hours before first use to allow the oils to synergize.
To use, warm a few drops between your palms and gently massage over your body, focusing on areas of tension like the chest, neck, and shoulders.
Take deep, intentional breaths as you apply the oil, allowing the aroma to soothe your emotions and restore balance.
How This Body Oil Supports Emotional Healing
Self-Love & Heart Healing: Rose and Sandalwood work together to open the heart and bring comfort in moments of sorrow.
Grounding & Stability: Frankincense and Sandalwood provide a sense of emotional steadiness during overwhelming times.
Mood Uplifting: Bergamot and Lavender gently lift the spirits, reducing feelings of sadness and anxiety.
Ritual for Release: The act of applying the oil with care and intention fosters mindfulness and self-compassion.
Incorporate This into Your Daily Ritual
Use this oil in the morning to set a calm and nurturing tone for the day, or in the evening as a way to release the emotions you’ve carried. Pair it with gentle breathwork, meditation, or journaling for deeper healing.
Loss and grief take time, and healing is a journey. Allow yourself the space to feel, to nurture, and to slowly reclaim your light. You are held, you are supported, and you are worthy of deep self-care.
With love and warmth,
Rose
The M-Power Method: Unlocking Your Menopause Archetype
The M-Power Method: Unlocking Your Menopause Archetype
Menopause is more than just a phase—it’s an awakening. It’s a time of profound transformation, where women can step into their true power, embrace their wisdom, and redefine their purpose. That’s where the M-Power Method comes in.
What is the M-Power Method?
The M-Power Method is a holistic framework designed to help women navigate menopause with confidence, clarity, and strength. It focuses on three core pillars:
Mindset – Reframing menopause as a time of empowerment rather than loss. We work on shifting limiting beliefs, embracing self-worth, and cultivating a powerful mindset that supports personal growth.
Body – Understanding the physical changes of menopause and providing holistic strategies to support vitality. From nutrition and movement to essential oils and self-care rituals, this pillar focuses on well-being from the inside out.
Spirit – Connecting with your inner wisdom, honouring your unique archetype, and stepping into a life that aligns with your purpose. This is about self-discovery, intuition, and embracing the next phase of life with intention.
Discovering Your Menopause Archetype
Every woman experiences menopause differently, but we all carry a unique archetype that reflects our inner transformation. The M-Power Method helps you uncover which archetype you resonate with most—whether it’s The Story Keeper, The Wild Woman, The Alchemist or The Sovereign—the M-Power Method allows you to move forward with forward with clarity.
The Benefits of the M-Power Method
Women who embrace the M-Power Method experience:
Renewed Energy & Vitality – Holistic wellness practices that support hormonal balance and overall well-being.
Greater Self-Awareness – Understanding how menopause is shaping your personal evolution and stepping into your authentic self.
Confidence in Transformation – Instead of fearing change, you’ll embrace it as a path to empowerment.
Community & Connection – A sisterhood of like-minded women who are on the same journey, supporting and uplifting one another.
Are You Ready to Step Into Your Archetype?
If you feel the call to reclaim your power, embrace your wisdom, and transform your menopause journey, the M-Power Method is for you. This isn’t just about managing symptoms—it’s about stepping into the next chapter of your life with purpose and passion.
Let’s make menopause a movement, not a mystery.
Which menopause archetype do you resonate with? Let’s start the conversation—leave a comment or reach out. Your journey to empowerment begins now.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom,
Rose
Menopause Mental Health
Menopause & Mental Health: The Silent Struggle Women Face
Menopause is often reduced to hot flushes and night sweats, but for many women, the most challenging aspect is the toll it takes on mental health. Anxiety, depression, brain fog, and mood swings can feel like they arrive out of nowhere, leaving women questioning their own sanity. And yet, this critical conversation remains in the shadows.
The Overlooked Impact of Menopause on Mental Health
For decades, women have been told to "push through" menopause, as if it's just another inconvenience to be ignored. But research shows that hormonal fluctuations during menopause can significantly impact brain chemistry, leading to anxiety, depression, and even panic attacks. A decline in oestrogen affects serotonin and dopamine—our feel-good neurotransmitters—while rising cortisol levels put the body into a constant state of stress.
Despite this, women’s struggles are often dismissed. Many go to their doctors only to be offered antidepressants without a deeper discussion about what’s really happening. The truth is, menopause is a profound transition, not just physically but emotionally and psychologically.
The Need for a Holistic Approach
Western medicine tends to isolate symptoms rather than addressing the whole person. Holistic healing offers a different perspective—one that acknowledges the deep mind-body connection and the importance of lifestyle, nourishment, and emotional well-being.
Here are some ways women can support their mental health through menopause:
1. Nourishing the Nervous System Adaptogenic herbs like ashwagandha and Triphala help regulate cortisol levels, reducing stress and anxiety. Essential oils such as lavender and clary sage have been shown to balance mood and promote relaxation.
2. Restoring Emotional Balance Journalling, creative expression, and working with archetypes can help women process this life stage in a meaningful way. Menopause is not just an ending—it’s a rebirth into wisdom and deeper self-awareness.
3. Supporting Brain Health A diet rich in omega-3 fatty acids, magnesium, and B vitamins can support cognitive function and mood stability. Ayurvedic practices like Abhyanga (warm oil massage) nourish the nervous system and promote grounding during this transition.
4. Community & Conversation Menopause should not be a lonely journey. Having a safe space to talk openly—whether through menopause cafés, support groups, or online communities—can be transformative. Women heal in connection, not in isolation.
It’s Time to Change the Narrative
Menopause is not a disease. It’s not a condition to be “fixed.” It’s a profound life transition that deserves respect, support, and a holistic approach. Women deserve to have their experiences validated and their health treated with care.
If you’ve been struggling with your mental health during menopause, you are not alone, and you are not broken. There are powerful, holistic tools available to support you. Let’s start having real conversations about menopause and mental health. The silence ends here.
Would you like support on your journey? Join my community, explore my holistic resources, and take the first step toward reclaiming your well-being.
With warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
A Chat About Epigenetics & Essential Oils
Reprogramming Your Menopause Experience: How Epigenetics & Essential Oils Can Help.
Hey lovely,
Menopause can feel like it takes over your body and mind, can’t it? One day you’re fine, the next you’re sweating through your sheets at 3 AM, forgetting why you walked into a room, or feeling more emotional than usual. It’s easy to think this is just how it has to be, but what if I told you that you have more control over this transition than you think?
Epigenetics: The Science of Shaping Your Menopause Experience
For years, we were told that our DNA determines everything about us, but science now shows that our lifestyle, habits, and even our thoughts influence how our genes express themselves. This means that while menopause is a natural phase of life, the way you experience it isn’t just pre-written in your genes—it’s shaped by how you live, eat, move, and think.
That’s why stress, nutrition, movement, and self-care all play a massive role in how smoothly (or intensely) you go through menopause. Think of it like this: your genes might set the stage, but you get to direct the show!
How to Use Epigenetics to Support Your Body Through Menopause
Mindset & Stress Reduction
Chronic stress increases cortisol levels, which can worsen menopause symptoms like brain fog, mood swings, and hot flashes. But here’s the good news—simple daily practices can help! Meditation, breathwork, journalling, and positive affirmations rewire your brain and signal to your body that it’s safe to relax.Nourishment for Your Changing Body
Your diet is like a conversation with your body. Eating nutrient-rich foods like leafy greens, healthy fats, and phytoestrogen-rich foods (like flaxseeds and tofu) can help balance hormones. Your gut health also influences menopause symptoms, so incorporating probiotic foods like yogurt and fermented veggies can be a game-changer.The Magic of Movement
Exercise isn’t just about fitness—it’s a way to tell your body that you’re strong and resilient. Gentle activities like yoga, walking, and strength training help regulate hormones, improve mood, and support bone health. Find movement that makes you feel good instead of seeing it as a chore.
Essential Oils: Your Natural Menopause Support System
Essential oils are one of the easiest and most enjoyable ways to support your mind and body through menopause. These powerful plant extracts can help with stress, sleep, hot flashes, and even hormone balance. Here are some of my favorites:
Clary Sage – Helps balance hormones and reduce hot flashes
Lavender – Calming, supports sleep, and eases anxiety
Peppermint – Cooling for those sudden heat surges
Geranium – Supports emotional balance and skin health
Frankincense – Grounding and deeply nourishing for the nervous system
How to use them: Add a few drops to a diffuser, mix with a carrier oil for a relaxing massage, or inhale deeply when you need a moment of calm.
Your Menopause, Your Power
Menopause isn’t something to suffer through—it’s a time to reconnect with your body and take charge of your health in a new way. By embracing the power of epigenetics, nourishing yourself with the right foods, moving in ways that feel good, and incorporating essential oils into your routine, you’re telling your body: I’ve got you.
Join the Conversation!
I’d love to hear how you’re supporting yourself through menopause. Have you tried any of these techniques? Let’s chat in the comments, or come and connect with me on social media!
✨ Read more on how epigenetics can help you create the lifestyle you deserve : HERE
The Sacred Pause: A New Era of Menopause Empowerment
Welcome to another edition of my blog column, a space where we break the silence around menopause and step into a movement of empowerment, transformation, and self-discovery. Whether you’re navigating perimenopause, postmenopause, or simply seeking wisdom for the journey ahead, this is a place for you.
Over the years, I’ve worked with countless women who have felt unheard, unseen, and unsupported during this significant life transition. But I believe menopause is not just an ending—it’s a powerful new beginning. It’s an opportunity to reclaim our health, redefine our purpose, and reimagine what’s possible for this stage of life.
What to Expect from This Column
Each edition will be a mix of education, inspiration, and practical guidance. We’ll explore topics like:
The M-Power Method: My unique approach to menopause, blending mindset, body, and spirit.
Holistic Well-being: From essential oils to mindful movement, we’ll cover tools for balance.
The Menopause Coaching Revolution: Why we need more trained menopause mentors and how I’m working to make that happen.
The Sacred Pause: A deeper dive into the community gatherings that bring women together in a supportive and spiritual way.
Creating a Legacy: Whether through career shifts, new business ventures, or personal growth, we’ll explore how to turn this phase into a period of expansion.
What’s Coming Next
I’m currently in the process of launching my new 5-week menopause coaching programme, and I’ll be sharing behind-the-scenes insights into the course creation process, as well as answering your questions about how to turn your passion into a business.
Menopause is a movement, not a mystery—and I’m so excited to have you here. Let’s rewrite the narrative together.
What are your biggest menopause challenges right now? Let me know in the comments or send me a message—I’d love to hear from you!
With warmth & wild wisdom, Rose
‘‘Making Menopause a Movement not a Mystery’’
Embracing the Freedom of Solitude: Reclaiming Yourself During Menopause
I recently came across something Elizabeth Gilbert said—about being greedy for her time, her mornings, her solitude. And it struck a deep chord in me….
I recently came across something Elizabeth Gilbert said—about being greedy for her time, her mornings, her solitude. And it struck a deep chord in me. Because if there’s ever a time to get beautifully, unapologetically greedy about your own life, it’s now.
For so many years, we give. We pour ourselves into relationships, into children, into careers, into the endless expectations of the world around us. We make ourselves small to fit into the spaces that others need us to fill. And then menopause arrives—not as an ending, but as an invitation. A chance to reclaim what was always ours: ourselves.
Being single at this stage of life is not a loss; it’s a liberation. It’s waking up in the morning and knowing the day is yours to shape. It’s drinking coffee in silence, stretching in the sunlight, reading for hours without interruption. It’s the joy of saying no—without guilt. And it’s the power of saying yes—on your own terms, and I absolutely love this, so many people ask me why I’m still single, life isn’t designed for single people, & I simply don’t care.
I live life on my terms & there’s something quite delicious about that.
Menopause asks us to stop seeking permission to take up space. To stop apologizing for needing rest, solitude, or even reinvention. It’s a time when the rules you once lived by no longer apply—because you get to rewrite them.
So if you find yourself alone in this season of life, know this: You are not lacking. You are expanding. You are not lonely. You are unbound. You are standing in the wide-open space of possibility, free to choose what comes next.
And if that means being a little greedy with your time, your energy, your love—then so be it. You’ve earned it.
I’m certain I heard this on a story on Instagram only recently, which means it will have disappeared by now, I have, however found a podcast where Liz talks to Maria Forleo about how precious being single is to her.
You can listen to it here
I created these Affirmation Cards for a Women’s circle that I held once,there is something incredibly magical & powerful about affirmations.
Hydrosols: The Next Aromatherapy & A Pro-Ageing Secret
What Are Hydrosols?
If you love essential oils, think of hydrosols as their softer, more skin-friendly counterparts. Created during the steam distillation process, hydrosols carry the water-soluble plant compounds that essential oils leave behind. This means they retain therapeutic benefits but in a much gentler form—making them perfect for the sensitive, changing skin of menopause and beyond.
Unlike essential oils, hydrosols don’t need to be diluted and can be used directly on the skin, making them a refreshing mist, toner, or even a calming addition to herbal teas.
Hydrosols & Pro-Ageing: Supporting Your Skin & Soul
Hydrosols are more than skincare; they are rituals of self-care that align with pro-ageing. As our skin naturally loses moisture and elasticity with age, we need hydration that doesn’t strip or irritate. Hydrosols offer:
Deep Hydration – Unlike toners loaded with alcohol, hydrosols refresh and plump the skin.
Cooling Relief – Perfect for hot flushes and irritated skin.
Gentle Healing – Soothing for redness, dryness, and menopausal breakouts.
Emotional Support – The subtle aromatic compounds work on a deeply emotional level, helping with stress, anxiety, and sleep disturbances common in midlife.
Top Hydrosols for Menopausal Skin & Wellbeing
Rose Hydrosol – The ultimate pro-ageing elixir. Hydrating, softening, and emotionally balancing.
Lavender Hydrosol – Soothing for sensitive or stressed skin, also aids in sleep and relaxation.
Neroli Hydrosol – A luxurious anti-inflammatory mist that brings radiance and calm.
Clary Sage Hydrosol – Balances hormones and provides gentle support during mood swings.
Peppermint Hydrosol – A cooling, refreshing mist that’s perfect for hot flushes and tired skin.
Bringing Hydrosols into Your Pro-Ageing Routine
Menopause isn’t an ending—it’s an evolution, and hydrosols are a beautiful way to honour your skin and emotions through this shift. Keep a bottle in your bag for an instant refresh, spritz your pillow for restful sleep, or mix them into your skincare to enhance your skin’s natural glow.
At Menopause Musings, we talk about ageing differently—not as something to fight, but as a journey to embrace. Hydrosols are just one of the many tools to support your body holistically as you navigate this new chapter.
So next time you reach for your skincare, consider swapping out harsh, synthetic formulas for the delicate yet powerful gift of plant waters. Because ageing well isn’t about fighting time—it’s about working with it.
Have you tried hydrosols? Let me know your favourite ways to use them in your pro-ageing journey!
DIY Rose Hydrosol Recipe
Ingredients:
2-3 cups fresh rose petals (organic, pesticide-free)
4 cups distilled water
Ice cubes
Large pot with a lid (inverted), heat-safe bowl, and small glass spray bottle
Method:
Place the heat-safe bowl in the center of the pot.
Add rose petals around the bowl and pour in distilled water.
Invert the lid of the pot and place ice cubes on top to encourage condensation.
Gently simmer on low heat for 30–40 minutes.
The steam will rise, condense on the lid, and drip into the bowl—this is your rose hydrosol.
Let it cool, then transfer it to a glass spray bottle. Store in the fridge for freshness.
Use it as a facial mist, body spray, or linen refresher for pro-ageing hydration!
Unlock the Secrets to Holistic Ageing
Embracing Holistic Aging: Nurture Your Body, Mind, and Spirit
Ageing is a journey we all embark on, but it doesn't have to feel like a decline. Instead, it can be a celebration of wisdom, growth, and self-care. Holistic ageing offers a path to embrace this phase with intention and vitality, focusing on the harmony between body, mind, and spirit. This approach isn’t about reversing time but about living fully and thriving in every season of life.
The Importance of Holistic Ageing
Holistic ageing recognizes that our well-being isn’t defined by one aspect alone. It’s about integrating physical health, emotional resilience, and mental clarity. By approaching ageing holistically, we can experience deeper joy, balance, and energy that allows us to flourish.
Five Ways to Embrace Holistic Ageing
Nourish Your Body with Purpose
As our bodies change, so do our nutritional needs. Fuel yourself with vibrant, whole foods packed with antioxidants, vitamins, and healthy fats. Think leafy greens, berries, nuts, seeds, and omega-3-rich fish. It’s no longer about counting calories to stay slim, it’s about looking at nutrition for the brain- neuro nutrition, to prevent inflammation, inflammation is not only ageing for the brain, it’s also the reason for many underlying health conditions which can be prevented.
Try incorporating anti-inflammatory spices like turmeric or cinnamon into your meals to support overall health and reduce inflammation.
Stay Active, Stay Energized
Movement isn’t just about exercise; it’s about keeping your energy flowing. Gentle ancient somatic healing activities like yoga, pilates, tai chi or swimming can help maintain flexibility and strength.
Regular walks in nature can improve your mood and cardiovascular health while grounding you in the present moment. Forest bathing is incredibly beneficial, especially for anyone who suffers from mental health conditions.
Cultivate Emotional Balance
Ageing brings shifts, and maintaining emotional well-being is vital. Journalling, meditation, or gratitude practices can help you process emotions and cultivate positivity.
Connect with others who uplift and inspire you, whether through friendships, community groups, or shared interests. We truly are the product of our environment.
Prioritize Rest and Recovery
Sleep becomes even more crucial as we age. Create a calming evening routine to prepare your body and mind for restful sleep. This could include reading, gentle stretching, or sipping chamomile tea. Sleep is all the detox we need, if we are lucky enough to experience a restful nights sleep.
Explore mindfulness techniques to calm a busy mind and support deeper relaxation. There is so much science to now back up meditation, it’s under the neuroscience side of healing, if you would like a meditation for beginners click here
Embrace Curiosity and Growth
Ageing is an opportunity to keep learning and exploring. Pick up a new hobby, take a course, or dive into a subject you’ve always been curious about.
Staying mentally active not only enriches your life but also supports cognitive health and sharpens your mind.
A New Perspective on Ageing
Holistic ageing invites you to redefine what it means to grow older. It’s about appreciating the wisdom and experiences that come with time while nurturing your well-being in every way. By focusing on these five areas, you can create a balanced, vibrant, and joyful life that honours the person you are becoming.
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With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Embracing the Menopause Journey: A Holistic Approach to Thriving
Menopause is a natural and transformative phase of life, yet it often feels shrouded in misunderstanding and silence. For many of us, it brings physical, emotional, and mental changes that can feel overwhelming. But what if menopause wasn’t something to fear?
What if, instead, it was an opportunity to reconnect with our body, reclaim our energy, and redefine our sense of self?
We are more aware of menopause than ever before, yet we still don’t show up the way we would really like, there’s still an element of awkwardness about being fully ourselves.
It’s a lifetime of conditioning and it’s so difficult to free ourselves from isn’t it?
The Connection Between Menopause and Holistic Health
As a seasoned Holistic Therapist of many years, I am seeing a huge change in women, yes, they are becoming more savvy in what they want out of life, and at the same time they struggle with the confidence side of things, divorce, bereavement, illness and financial worries all play a huge part in how we feel about ourselves.
Holistic Tips for Navigating Menopause
Nourish Your Body
During menopause, our body’s nutritional needs shift. Focus on a diet rich in whole foods, like leafy greens, nuts, seeds, lean proteins, and foods high in phytoestrogens, such as flaxseeds and chia seeds. Hydration is also key—drink plenty of water to support skin, digestion, and overall vitality. Don’t stress over calories, think more about nourishing the brain, neuro nutrition is vital if we want to live a healthy life. You can listen to the wonderful Dr Lisa Mosconi here to find out more on how to eat for brain healthMove with Intention
Exercise isn’t just about staying fit; it’s a powerful tool for managing menopausal symptoms like mood swings, hot flushes, and fatigue. Gentle forms of movement, such as yoga, Pilates, or walking, can help us stay strong, reduce stress, and improve flexibility.Support Your Mind
Brain fog and memory changes can be frustrating, but practices like meditation, mindfulness, or journaling can help clear mental clutter and bring focus. Taking even five minutes a day to breathe deeply or write your thoughts can make a difference.Restorative Sleep
Sleep disturbances are common during menopause, but creating a calming bedtime routine can help. Limit screen time before bed, sip on herbal teas like chamomile, and explore natural remedies like magnesium supplements or essential oils.Essential Oils
Essential oils like clary sage, lavender, and peppermint can help manage symptoms such as hot flushes, anxiety, and headaches. Incorporating these into your daily routine through diffusers, bath soaks, or topical application can provide soothing relief.
Reclaiming Your Power
Menopause is a time of transformation. It’s an invitation to pause, reflect, and reconnect with your inner wisdom. By approaching this stage holistically, we are not just managing symptoms—we are stepping into a new phase of life with strength and self-awareness.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Making Menopause a Movement not a Mystery
Why Society Needs to Stop Whispering About Menopause
For too long, menopause has lived in the shadows of polite conversation. A word spoken in hushed tones. A phase of life dismissed as a mere inconvenience. A time marked with euphemisms and side-glances, as though the natural evolution of a woman’s body is something shameful.
Why is it that we, as a society, are so comfortable discussing puberty, childbirth and even erectile dysfunction but when it comes to menopause—a universal experience for half the population—it becomes a taboo subject? It's time to break the silence. It's time to stop whispering about menopause and start talking about it openly, proudly, and without apology.
The Silence Around Menopause Harms Women
The societal hush surrounding menopause does more than just isolate women—it actively harms them. When a subject is deemed unworthy of open conversation, it becomes a breeding ground for misinformation, stigma, and unnecessary suffering.
Think about it: How many women enter menopause completely unprepared? How many are blindsided by symptoms they didn’t expect—hot flushes, sleepless nights, mood swings, and changes to their skin, hair, and libido? How many suffer in silence because they feel embarrassed to speak up, even to their doctors?
The shame isn’t inherent to menopause—it’s imposed by a culture that values youth and dismisses ageing as a decline. Women are taught to see menopause as the beginning of the end, rather than what it truly is: a powerful, natural transition into a new phase of life.
Menopause Is Not a Disease
One of the most damaging narratives surrounding menopause is that it’s a medical condition that needs to be "fixed." Yes, the hormonal shifts of menopause can be challenging, and for some women, medical interventions like hormone replacement therapy (HRT) can provide much-needed relief. But menopause itself is not an illness—it’s a normal biological process.
And yet, our culture’s obsession with youth means we avoid this subject at all costs, often painting it as a problem to be solved rather than an experience to be embraced. This mindset robs women of the opportunity to see menopause as an empowering time—a chance to step into their wisdom, redefine their priorities, and focus on their well-being.
It’s Time to Change the Narrative
To dismantle the stigma around menopause, we need to start with the way we talk about it. Women need to feel empowered to share their experiences without fear of judgement or ridicule. Open conversations—in the workplace, in families, and in the media—can help normalize menopause and remove the shame associated with it.
We also need to elevate menopause in education. How is it that high school students learn about menstruation and reproduction, but menopause is rarely, if ever, mentioned? If young people were taught early on that menopause is a natural part of life, it would go a long way toward creating a culture that values and respects women at all stages of life.
Additionally, workplaces need to step up. Menopause is not a private issue—it has very real implications for women’s careers, productivity, and mental health. Companies that support their employees through menopause, whether by offering flexible schedules, education, or even menopause policies, will not only improve the lives of their employees but also retain valuable talent.
The Power of Sharing Stories
One of the most effective ways to break the silence is by sharing stories. When women speak out about their experiences, it creates a ripple effect. It shows others that they are not alone.
We need more public figures and influencers to normalize the conversation around menopause. Imagine how transformative it would be if menopause were discussed on talk shows, in podcasts, or even in social media campaigns with the same energy and openness as topics like self-care or parenting., yes, we’re getting better… just!
But it’s not just about celebrities—it’s about all of us. Every woman who speaks openly about menopause, whether with a friend, a partner, or a colleague, is contributing to a cultural shift.
Menopause is not the end of the road—it’s the start of a new chapter. It’s a time of deep transformation, a time when women can step into their power with the confidence that comes from lived experience.
It’s time for society to honour this transition, not dismiss it. Let’s stop treating menopause like a taboo subject and start talking about it with the respect and attention it deserves.
To the women reading this: Speak your truth. Share your story. Refuse to be silenced.
To the men reading this: Be allies. Listen, learn, and support the women in your life.
And to society as a whole: The time for whispering is over. It’s time to start talking—loudly, proudly, and unapologetically—about menopause.
Because when we do, we not only empower women to navigate this phase of life with dignity and strength, but we also create a world that values the fullness of a woman’s journey. And that is something worth shouting about.
What’s your experience with menopause? Let’s start a conversation! Leave a comment below or share this post with someone who needs to hear it. Together, we can break the silence.
With Love & Wild Wisdom
Rose
‘‘ Making Menopause a Movement not a Mystery’’
Essential Oils 101: A Beginner's Guide
What Are Essential Oils?
Essential oils are highly concentrated natural extracts derived from plants. They capture the plant's scent, flavour, and beneficial properties, making them powerful tools for enhancing well-being. These oils are commonly extracted through distillation or cold pressing.
How Do Essential Oils Work?
Essential oils work through both inhalation and topical application. When inhaled, they can stimulate the olfactory system and influence brain regions that control emotions and memory. When applied to the skin (diluted in a carrier oil), they can be absorbed into the bloodstream and promote physical and emotional healing.
Common Uses for Essential Oils:
Aromatherapy: Diffusing essential oils can enhance mood, reduce stress, and improve sleep.
Topical Application: Blending essential oils with a carrier oil like jojoba or coconut oil allows them to be applied to the skin to help with pain relief, skin care, or relaxation.
Household Use: Many essential oils have antibacterial properties, making them ideal for natural cleaning solutions.
Popular Essential Oils & Their Benefits:
Lavender: Known for its calming and relaxing effects, great for sleep, stress relief, and skin healing.
Peppermint: Energizing and refreshing; often used for headaches, digestive issues, and muscle pain.
Tea Tree: Has strong antibacterial and antifungal properties, commonly used for skin care and treating infections.
Eucalyptus: Known for its ability to clear respiratory issues and support the immune system.
Frankincense: Grounding and meditative, often used in skincare and to promote relaxation.
Lemon: Uplifting and cleansing, frequently used in household cleaning and mood enhancement.
How to Use Essential Oils Safely:
Dilution is Key: Essential oils are potent, so always dilute them in a carrier oil (like almond, jojoba, or coconut oil) before applying to the skin. The general rule is 3-5 drops of essential oil per tablespoon of carrier oil.
Patch Test: Before applying a new essential oil blend to your skin, do a patch test to ensure you don't have an allergic reaction.
Avoid Ingestion: Unless advised by a qualified practitioner, avoid ingesting essential oils.
Storage: Keep essential oils in dark glass bottles in a cool, dry place to preserve their potency.
Choosing Quality Essential Oils:
Look for pure, essential oils with no synthetic additives.
Check for Latin botanical names on the label to ensure you’re getting the correct plant extract.
Buy from reputable brands that provide sourcing and distillation details.
Conclusion:
Essential oils are a powerful, natural way to support your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Whether you’re new to aromatherapy or a seasoned user, the key is to explore these oils safely and find what works best for your individual needs.
"A Holistic and Spiritual Christmas: Nurturing the Soul with Joy and Light"
As the festive season unfolds, let the spirit of Christmas be more than just tinsel and twinkling lights. This year, embark on a journey of holistic joy and spiritual warmth, embracing the true essence of the season. In this blog post, we'll explore ways to infuse your Christmas celebration with mindful practices and soulful connections.
Creating a Holistic Atmosphere:
1. Mindful Decorating: As you adorn your home with festive decor, approach it as a mindful practice. Choose ornaments and lights that resonate with positive energy. Consider natural elements like pine cones, evergreen branches, and candles to create a warm and grounding ambiance.
2. Conscious Gifting: Shift the focus from materialism to meaningful connections with conscious gifting. Choose gifts that align with the recipient's well-being, such as wellness books, aromatherapy sets, or a subscription to a mindfulness app. Encourage experiences over possessions, fostering a sense of joy that goes beyond the physical.
3. Soulful Nourishment: Plan a Christmas feast that not only delights the taste buds but also nourishes the body and soul. Incorporate seasonal, organic ingredients into your recipes. Consider plant-based options that honor both your health and the planet.
Spiritual Practices for a Sacred Christmas:
1. Morning Meditation: Begin your Christmas day with a moment of quiet reflection. Whether through meditation, prayer, or simply deep breathing, connect with the sacredness of the day and set positive intentions for the celebrations ahead.
2. Gratitude Ritual: Gather with loved ones to express gratitude. Create a gratitude circle, where each person shares a heartfelt moment from the past year. This practice fosters a sense of connection and deepens the meaning of the holiday.
3. Candlelight Ceremony: Embrace the symbolic power of light by incorporating a candlelight ceremony into your celebrations. As you light candles, reflect on the light within and its ability to dispel darkness. This simple yet profound act can add a spiritual dimension to your Christmas festivities.
4. Nature Walk: Take a contemplative walk in nature. Whether it's a nearby park or a quiet forest trail, allow the beauty of the natural world to inspire awe and gratitude. Nature has a way of grounding us and connecting us to the sacredness of life.
Sharing Love and Presence:
In the midst of the holiday hustle, remember that the greatest gift is the presence we bring to each moment. Cherish the laughter, the shared meals, and the simple joys of being together. Let your Christmas celebration be a holistic tapestry woven with love, mindfulness, and the spirit of giving.
May this Christmas be a radiant celebration of the heart, where the holistic and the spiritual dance together, creating a tapestry of joy and connection. Wishing you and your loved ones a truly soulful and Merry Christmas!
"Embracing the Spirit of Light: A Holistic Journey through December 12th"
As the 12th day of December unfolds, we find ourselves immersed in the heart of the holiday season—a time when the world is adorned with festive lights, and a palpable sense of joy and spirituality fills the air. Today, let's embark on a holistic journey that intertwines the seasonal magic with a spiritual touch, inviting us to embrace the profound beauty of this special day.
Embracing the Seasonal Magic:
December 12th brings with it the enchantment of winter. The air is crisp, and nature is adorned with a glistening coat of frost. Take a moment to step outside and breathe in the invigorating winter air. As you walk, notice the stillness of the world around you and the subtle beauty of nature preparing for its restful slumber.
Connecting with Nature:
On this day, find a quiet spot in nature—a park, a garden, or even your backyard. Take a mindful stroll, observing the bare branches, the earth resting beneath fallen leaves, and the subtle signs of life that endure even in the colder months. In this quiet communion with nature, feel a sense of interconnectedness with the cycles of life.
Spiritual Reflection:
December 12th also beckons us to engage in spiritual reflection. Whether you follow a specific spiritual path or simply seek a moment of inner peace, take time for introspection. Light a candle, symbolizing the inner light that can guide us through the darkest times. Reflect on the lessons of the past year, expressing gratitude for growth and acknowledging challenges as stepping stones on your journey.
Holistic Practices for the Day:
Morning Meditation: Start your day with a grounding meditation. Focus on the breath, allowing each inhale to bring in positivity and each exhale to release any tension. Set an intention for the day, aligning it with the spirit of December 12th.
Nourishing Rituals: Prepare a warm and nourishing meal using seasonal ingredients. Whether it's a hearty soup, roasted vegetables, or a cup of herbal tea, let the act of preparing and enjoying the meal be a mindful and nurturing experience.
Candlelit Yoga or Stretching: In the evening, engage in a gentle yoga session or stretching routine by candlelight. Connect with the sensation of movement in your body and the warmth of the candle's glow, symbolizing the inner light that radiates from within.
Expressing Gratitude:
As the day comes to a close, take a moment to express gratitude for the simple yet profound moments experienced on December 12th. Whether it's the warmth of a cup of tea, the beauty of nature, or the insights gained through reflection, acknowledge the blessings that surround you.
On this 12th day of December, may you find peace in the seasonal magic and spiritual depth that permeate the air. Embrace the light within and around you, allowing it to illuminate your path in the days to come.
