The Forgotten Voice
The Forgotten Voice
Anointing the throat chakra in midlife and beyond
There’s a silence many women carry into menopause —
Not just the silence of night sweats and changing hormones,
but the deeper silence…
of years spent swallowing truth,
softening tone,
shrinking presence
just to keep the peace.
For years, I dressed how I was expected.
Spoke when it felt safe.
Held emotions in my throat until they became illness.
My diagnosis of Hashimoto’s wasn’t random —
It was a message.
This essential oil blend, The Forgotten Voice,
was born from that silence.
Crafted with clary sage, frankincense, lavender, geranium and chamomile,
this blend is both a balm and a boundary.
A ritual for women who are done performing.
Done apologising.
Done dressing for approval.
It’s for the woman rediscovering her voice —
and ready to anoint it, not hide it.
This is more than aromatherapy.
It’s reclamation.
Apply gently to the throat, wrists, or over your heart before speaking, writing, resting or praying.
Let the scent remind your nervous system that it is safe to be heard again.
Ritual: The Forgotten Voice
A throat chakra healing ritual for midlife women reclaiming their truth.
🌙 Best time:
Evening, during a quiet moment
New moon or waning moon (symbolic of release)
When you feel unheard, unseen, or emotionally “clogged”
🌿 What You’ll Need:
A small bowl of warm water
A white or turquoise cloth or scarf
A mirror
Your “Forgotten Voice” oil blend (recipe below)
A candle (blue or white)
Optional: a turquoise crystal or piece of jewellery
Step-by-step Ritual
1. Set the space
Light your candle.
Place your scarf around your shoulders or neck.
Take 3 slow breaths, with your hand resting gently on your throat.
Say aloud or silently:
“I honour the voice that was silenced.
I now invite it to return — softly, safely, completely.”
2. Anoint your throat
Using your blend, apply gently to:
The centre of your throat
Behind your ears
Your wrists (pulse points for emotional flow)
Say:
“I no longer perform.
I express from presence.
I am safe to be heard.”
3. Mirror whisper
Look into the mirror and speak softly:
Your name
A truth you once held back
A word or phrase you long to reclaim (e.g. freedom, sovereign, enough, wild, healer)
Let tears come if they need to. Let silence follow if it feels good.
You are being witnessed — by you.
4. Release with water
Dip your fingers in the warm water and gently touch your throat.
Imagine cleansing away old words, shame, or expectation.
Say:
“I cleanse what is not mine. I reclaim what is.”
5. Close gently
Wrap your scarf or cloth loosely around your shoulders.
Rest. Journal. Sleep.
Your voice has been heard.
💧 Essential Oil Blend: The Forgotten Voice
A grounding, heart-opening, soul-centering blend to anoint the throat and soothe the nervous system.
💠 10ml roller blend (diluted in jojoba or almond oil):
3 drops Clary Sage – hormonal harmony & emotional clarity
3 drops Lavender – calming the fear of being heard
2 drops Geranium – heart-truth and emotional balance
2 drops Frankincense – sacred connection, spiritual strength
1 drop Roman Chamomile – softening suppressed emotion
Optional: 1 drop Sandalwood or Vetiver for grounding
🌀 Add a tiny turquoise crystal to the bottle if desired.
Use before journalling, speaking, teaching, or resting.
This is not a perfume — it’s a remembrance.
You are softly transforming. And it’s gorgeous.
Why You're So Tired — And Why It's Not Just Menopause
You’re doing all the right things — eating well (mostly), moving your body when you can, trying to sleep.
But you still feel exhausted.
Not just tired — bone-deep weary.
Like your body’s been holding something for far too long.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And no — it’s not all in your head, and it’s not just “hormones.”
It goes deeper. Let me gently explain.
The Forgotten System Behind Burnout + Midlife Fatigue: The HPA Axis
At the heart of your body’s stress response lies the HPA axis — a communication loop between your brain (hypothalamus + pituitary gland) and your adrenal glands. It controls:
Your stress hormones (like cortisol)
Your energy levels + sleep rhythms
Your reproductive hormones (like oestrogen + progesterone)
Your response to long-term trauma or emotional load
When the HPA axis is out of balance — often after years of chronic stress, caregiving, childhood trauma, or pushing through — your body starts to slow down, switch off, or shout through symptoms.
Fatigue. Brain fog. Mood swings. Sleep disruption. Fibroid flares.
Even autoimmune flare-ups.
Melatonin: More Than a Sleep Hormone
We often think of melatonin as something that helps us drift off at night. But it does so much more:
Protects your brain from oxidative stress
Regulates inflammation
Supports the mitochondria (your cellular energy centres)
Helps reduce fibroid growth
Brings rhythm back to a dysregulated system
Low melatonin isn’t just about poor sleep. It’s about poor recovery. And many women in menopause, burnout, or chronic emotional stress have depleted melatonin — without even knowing it.
How Reflexology Can Gently Reset the System
This is where reflexology becomes so much more than a treatment — it becomes a way home.
Through specific pressure points in the feet, I support:
The HPA axis — calming the stress response
The pineal gland — stimulating natural melatonin release
The adrenal reflexes — supporting energy flow
The womb + ovaries — helping hormonal balance return
The vagus nerve — guiding the body into rest, not just survival
Each session is layered with essential oils, somatic presence, and decades of experience in holding women through transitions that feel invisible to the outside world — but deeply felt within.
You Don’t Need to Carry This Alone
Whether you're in the thick of menopause, experiencing fibroids, or feeling emotionally worn thin — your body deserves care, not criticism. It’s trying to speak.
My job is to help you listen.
If you're local to me, I offer three levels of reflexology support, click on the link below for more information.
Reflexology packages here
And if you're not nearby, I offer custom oil blends, nervous system mentoring, and PDF guides to help you feel supported from afar. Just send me a note with the word “RESET.”
With warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Menopause Mentor & Holistic Therapist
www.menopausemusings.co.uk
The Silent Struggle – Mental Health and Menopause
Menopause & Mental Health: Why We Must Talk About the Silent Crisis
Menopause isn’t just a hormonal shift—it’s a psychological, emotional, and spiritual transition. And for many women, it can be one of the most mentally vulnerable times of their lives.
The Hidden Pain No One Talks About
While society often associates menopause with hot flushes or mood swings, what often goes unspoken is the rising rates of depression and suicidal ideation during this stage. According to recent studies, suicide rates spike for women aged 45–54—the very age group navigating perimenopause and menopause.
Many women feel like they’re disappearing—from their roles, relationships, even from themselves. The shift in hormones such as oestrogen and progesterone can deeply impact serotonin levels, leaving women feeling hopeless, irritable, and emotionally flat. Add to this a lifetime of caregiving, underpaid emotional labour, and cultural silence, and it’s no wonder so many feel lost.
For all you Beautiful Women: You're Not a Burden
If you’ve found yourself feeling low, disconnected, or even having thoughts that scare you—you are not alone.
Menopause is a rite of passage, but without adequate emotional support, it can feel like a cliff edge.
Here’s how you can start gently supporting your mind and nervous system:
Aromatherapy Rituals – Essential oils like lavender, clary sage, and frankincense can calm the nervous system and ease emotional overwhelm. Try a few drops on your wrists before journaling or meditating.
Journalling Prompts:
“What do I feel is ending?”
“What part of me is being reborn?”Support Circles: Seek out safe, non-judgmental spaces—online or in person—where you can speak freely about your experiences.
For Therapists: Holding Space Without Burning Out
As therapists and healers, you carry the weight of others’ trauma—often while managing your own menopause transition in silence. The emotional labour is invisible but immense. Who holds space for you?
Schedule in your own nervous system check-ins.
Incorporate essential oil anchoring in your day—apply vetiver or neroli between sessions to ground yourself.
Build in boundaries—energetic and practical.
Burnout isn’t a flaw—it’s a message. You need tending to as much as your clients do.
💌 Final Words
Let this be the reminder you didn’t know you needed: you matter.
You are not invisible. You are not “too much.”
Whether you are supporting others or struggling in silence—this is a call to pause, reconnect, and find support.
Want more resources and healing rituals?
Download the free guide to calm menopause rituals here 👉 Free Ritual Guide
The Healer’s Healing: A Holistic Path for Therapists and Caregivers Facing Burnout and Autoimmunity
As holistic therapists, massage practitioners, and energy healers, we dedicate ourselves to the well-being of others. Our work is sacred. But when giving becomes constant and receiving becomes rare, our systems quietly begin to fray.
Many in our field are now feeling the weight of this imbalance: emotional burnout, financial struggle, autoimmune flare-ups, and a quiet grief that asks, “Is there more for me?”
If this speaks to you, this post is for you. It’s a sanctuary for the overworked healer. A place to remember that you are just as worthy of healing as those you serve.
The Signs We Often Miss
The body always speaks — sometimes in whispers, sometimes in roars. Here’s what burnout and autoimmune imbalance might look like for the healer:
Deep fatigue that lingers even after rest
Emotional numbness, resentment, or loss of passion
Thyroid issues, skin conditions, hormone imbalances
Undercharging, overworking, or feeling unseen in your gifts
You might brush it off as “part of the job.” But it isn’t. You were never meant to deplete yourself for others.
A Holistic Way Home: Reclaiming Your Energy
Burnout is not the end. It’s a sacred turning point. A chance to restore your energy, realign with your purpose, and rise — not through hustle, but through nourishment.
1. Receive the Medicine You Offer
Book a massage. Say yes to Reiki. Allow someone to hold space for you. Your energy field needs tending too.
2. Sacred Oils for Soul Soothing
Use this daily ritual blend to reconnect with your body and spirit:
Healer’s Restore Oil
5 drops Lavender (calms overwhelm)
3 drops Frankincense (deep grounding)
2 drops Rose Geranium (emotional balance)
2 drops Roman Chamomile (nervous system reset)
Blend in 30ml of jojoba oil and massage into your heart, neck, and womb space
3. Rewrite the Story of “Not Enough”
Your worth is not measured by how exhausted you are. You are allowed to charge well. To rest often. To heal deeply. To be supported.
You Deserve to Rise
As I journey through my own healing — from burnout and autoimmune challenges to womb wellness and spiritual rebirth — I’m now guiding therapists, carers, and space-holders like you to find wholeness again.
If you’re tired of being underpaid, overworked, and disconnected from your own magic…
🌿 It’s time to come back to yourself. 🌿 To honour your womb space, your body, your voice. 🌿 To remember that your healing is sacred.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Holistic Menopause Mentor
The Healer’s Healing: A Holistic Path for Therapists and Caregivers Facing Burnout and Autoimmunity
As holistic therapists and caregivers, we hold space for others. We offer compassion, energy, and deep presence. But often, the very souls who care for others the most find themselves depleted—drained by emotional labour, energetic exchange, and the unrelenting demands of service.
Burnout in the caring professions is all too common. And in many cases, that burnout can progress to physical dis-ease, manifesting as autoimmune conditions, chronic fatigue, hormone imbalances, or emotional collapse.
This post is a call to the healers, the empaths, the space-holders. It’s a reminder: You deserve to heal too. The saying,'You cannot pour from an empty cup’, is no joke.Let’s explore how to recognise the signs of burnout and begin a nourishing, restorative journey back to wholeness.
Recognising the Signs of Burnout and Autoimmune Overload
Burnout often whispers before it screams. Here are some common signs:
Persistent fatigue that rest doesn’t resolve
Low-grade inflammation, bloating, skin issues
Brain fog, forgetfulness, or low motivation
Emotional numbness or heightened sensitivity
Disconnection from purpose or resentment toward clients
Irregular cycles, thyroid imbalance, or autoimmune symptoms
Autoimmune conditions often follow prolonged stress, unresolved trauma, and burnout. As therapists, we are not immune—if anything, our work can predispose us to this through overgiving and under-receiving.
A Holistic Path Back to Wellness
Healing begins with a pause. It starts with the decision to turn inward and tend to your own sacred needs. Here are practices that support the healer’s body, mind, and soul:
1. Bodywork: Receiving as Medicine
You give healing touch to others—now allow yourself to receive it. Regular massage therapy, reiki, reflexology, or craniosacral work can help restore nervous system balance and clear energetic congestion.
2. Restorative Rituals for Daily Nourishment
Create space for stillness and replenishment:
Gentle movement like yin yoga or walks in nature
Guided meditations focused on self-compassion
Afternoon naps without guilt
Sacred silence to reconnect with your own energy
3. Essential Oil Blend for Emotional Release and Reconnection
This blend is designed to calm inflammation, release emotional tension, and restore energetic boundaries.
Healer’s Restore Blend:
5 drops Lavender – Calms the nervous system and promotes emotional release
4 drops Frankincense – Grounds the spirit and encourages inner reflection
3 drops Geranium – Balances hormones and softens emotional overwhelm
2 drops Sandalwood – Connects to spiritual purpose and deep rest
2 drops Roman Chamomile – Supports emotional surrender and peace
Carrier oil: Jojoba or sweet almond (30ml)
Mix and store in a dark glass bottle. Apply to heart space, neck, and wrists during moments of stillness or before/after sessions.
Why This Work Matters: Honouring the Wounded Healer
Many of us in the healing professions carry the archetype of the Wounded Healer. We have experienced pain, loss, or illness ourselves—and from that place of deep understanding, we guide others.
But your healing doesn’t end when your practice begins. Your body still needs love. Your spirit still needs replenishment. And your inner healer needs tending.
Autoimmunity and burnout are not signs of failure. They are invitations. They ask us to stop, to soften, and to come home to ourselves.
A New Path Forward: The Empowered Healer
As I continue my own healing journey from Hashimoto’s and Autoimmune, I’ve come to specialise in helping therapists, coaches, and caregivers reclaim their vitality through holistic means. Whether you’re navigating perimenopause, burnout, or chronic illness—know that healing is not only possible, it’s your birthright.
Let this be your reminder: You deserve the same care and compassion you so freely give to others.
With love and understanding,
Rose
When it’s time to Pivot:Why I’m Embracing Menopause Coaching & Mentorship
There comes a time when you just have to move into alignment with where you are up to, this is easier said than done. As a long standing therapist of over 3 decades, (A yellow pages therapist) if you know you know :) it was all I had ever known. Yes I qualified as a menopause coach & mentor a couple of years ago, yet still, it was being a therapist that had a stronger pull on me…. until it didn’t any more.
I just couldn’t grasp what was happening, it was such a slow, painful process. It was a kind of grief that I was experiencing, my career had always been a constant, through every painful event in my life, I had no choice but to go to work, I loved it, it was definitely my vocation, my calling.
I’ve spent years immersed in healing work — therapy, aromatherapy, soul coaching, and holistic rituals. I’ve supported thousands of women through heartbreak, burnout, and personal transformation. But recently, my own body became the teacher.
My Hashimoto’s diagnosis arrived during a season of deep fatigue — emotionally, physically, and spiritually. The kind of tiredness that no bath soak or weekend rest could fix. It was a wake-up call. Not just about my health, but about how I was living, giving, and ignoring my own transitions.
At the same time, I began to notice a pattern: many of the women I worked with were entering perimenopause or navigating midlife change. They felt unseen. Unheard. Unprepared. I recognised myself in their stories — and I realised: this is the work I’m meant to do now.
Why Menopause?
Because menopause is more than hot flushes and hormones. It’s a sacred rite of passage — a threshold into our most honest, powerful, untamed selves.
It’s where everything we’ve been pushing down rises up.
It’s where old identities fall away so we can finally ask, Who am I now?
For too long, this stage has been treated like a decline.
But what if it’s actually an awakening?
So, What’s Changing?
I’m now offering coaching and mentorship specifically for women navigating menopause, burnout, and hormonal transitions. I’ll be weaving together the tools that have supported me — somatic rituals, archetypal wisdom, essential oils, and sacred self-inquiry.
Whether you’re deep in the fog of fatigue, feeling the ache of invisibility, or simply longing to feel like yourself again — this space is for you.
A Final Word on Pivoting
It’s not always easy to pivot. There’s fear, doubt, the guilt of leaving old identities behind. But sometimes, honoring your truth is the most healing act you can offer — to yourself, and to others.
I’m here now, not as someone who’s figured it all out, but as someone walking this path beside you.
If this resonates with you, I’d love for you to explore my new offerings, download a free ritual guide, or simply reach out. You’re not alone.
🌿 With warmth and wild wisdom,
Rose
From Burnout to Balance: A Holistic Approach to Hashimoto’s, Menopause & Midlife Recovery
Opening reflection:
There’s a moment when exhaustion becomes something deeper. When no amount of sleep helps. When your mind feels foggy, your emotions feel fragile, and your body just...won’t cooperate. That moment has a name — and for many of us, it’s burnout. For some of us, it’s also called Hashimoto’s. For all of us navigating midlife, it’s a wake-up call.
I’ve been there. I am there. And I’m learning how to walk the path from burnout to thriving — not by pushing through, but by softening, by listening, by healing.
The Link Between Menopause, Autoimmunity & Burnout
Hashimoto’s thyroiditis is an autoimmune condition that often flares in women during hormonal transitions like perimenopause and menopause. Add in modern stress, societal pressure, and the invisible weight many women carry, and it’s no wonder our bodies start to rebel.
Signs this may be you:
Deep fatigue that sleep doesn’t fix
Hair thinning, brain fog, or weight changes
Anxiety, mood swings, or low resilience
A sense of being emotionally “flat” or overwhelmed
Essential Oils as Rituals, Not Remedies
While no oil replaces medical care, the right essential oil rituals can help soothe your nervous system, balance your emotions, and restore a sense of connection to your body.
Here’s one I use in my Menopause Calm Ritual:
The Grounded Heart Ritual
Blend:
2 drops Lavender (calming & soothing)
2 drops Frankincense (grounding & spiritual)
1 drop Geranium (balancing hormones + heart)
Mix with 1 tbsp of jojoba oil or fractionated coconut oil.
Ritual:
Apply to your heart, wrists, and temples.
Close your eyes. Breathe deeply for 3–5 minutes.
Say: “I honour what my body is showing me. I am safe to rest. I am safe to heal.”
Repeat daily. It’s a small act of sacred self-honouring.
Reframing Burnout: Not a Failure — A Signal
What if burnout wasn’t something you caused... but something trying to guide you?
What if Hashimoto’s wasn’t a breakdown… but a breakthrough?
This is where I’m focusing now — not just on coping, but on thriving. Creating a slower, softer, wiser way to live and work.
‘With Warmth and Wild Wisdom’
Rose
Hashimoto’s & Honouring the Body’s Whispers
Lately, I’ve been learning to slow down — not because I wanted to, but because my body asked me to.
After months (maybe years) of feeling unusually tired, foggy, heavy, and emotionally overwhelmed, I was recently diagnosed with Hashimoto’s thyroiditis, an autoimmune condition that often accompanies burnout and perimenopause.
It’s been a mix of relief and grief. Relief to know what’s going on. Grief for how long I pushed through, quietly wondering why I wasn’t “coping” like I used to.
But I’m not stopping.
I’m evolving.
I’m listening.
And I’m creating new rituals — ones that support not just my clients… but me, too.
And here’s the truth I didn’t expect:
I now find myself walking the same path I once supported my clients through in my 30s.
Back then, I could sense their pain, but I didn’t truly understand it.
Now, with my own lived experience of Hashimoto’s and hormonal burnout, I see them fully — because I’ve become one of them.
And I finally understand what real support looks like.
This is why I’ve put my focus into creating Calm Rituals for women like us.
🌿 Gentle oils
🌿 Nervous system support
🌿 Emotional regulation
🌿 Permission to slow down without guilt
Because you’re not lazy. You’re not broken.
You’re exhausted — and worthy of care.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Journalling Prompts for Emotional Release
Writing is a therapeutic tool that allows you to process emotions and gain clarity. These journalling prompts are designed to help release heavy emotions and cultivate self-awareness.
Journalling Prompts:
What emotions have been weighing on me lately, and where do I feel them in my body?
What is one thing I need to release in order to move forward with peace?
How can I show myself more compassion and self-love today?
What is something that brings me joy, and how can I incorporate more of it into my life?
If I could write a letter to my past self, what words of comfort and encouragement would I offer?
What are three things I am grateful for in this moment?
How to Use These Prompts:
Set aside 10-15 minutes in a quiet space.
Write freely without judgment, allowing your thoughts to flow.
Revisit your entries over time to reflect on your healing journey.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Grounding Practices for Inner Stability
Grounding Practices for Inner Stability
When emotions feel overwhelming, grounding techniques can help bring a sense of stability and security. These simple yet effective practices will help reconnect you with your body and the present moment.
Grounding Techniques to Try:
Earthing: Walk barefoot on grass or soil to reconnect with nature and absorb its calming energy.
5-4-3-2-1 Sensory Exercise: Identify five things you see, four things you touch, three things you hear, two things you smell, and one thing you taste to bring awareness to the present.
Breathwork: Try deep belly breathing by inhaling for four counts, holding for four, and exhaling for four to calm the nervous system.
Body Scan Meditation: Lie down and bring awareness to each part of your body, releasing any tension you notice.
Holding a Comfort Object: Whether it’s a crystal, a soft fabric, or a meaningful item, holding something tangible can provide reassurance and grounding.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Womb Healing After Surgery: The Disconnection No One Talks About
Womb surgery is a quiet trauma. This is something I can relate to, I have had many gynae surgeries, none of them explained clearly, all of them booked in without any discussion as to what was really happening, no aftercare to discuss how this would impact my emotional or physical wellbeing.
I had the operation, was sent home and that was it… I just got on with life. The exhaustion was so debilitating I used to go into work, find a quiet room and fall asleep, hoping no one would walk in and find me. The tiredness was relentless, it was deep within my soul, there was no real recovery time.
No time to grieve what had happened, to time to process anything, if only I knew…
Whether it's a hysterectomy, fibroid removal, endometriosis, oopherectomy, salpingectomy or another gynaecological procedure — the focus is often on recovery of the body, but the emotional and spiritual recovery is rarely spoken of.
And yet, through decades of listening to women in my treatment room— I’ve heard a common thread;
“I feel like something is missing… but I don’t know who to tell.”
The Silence Around Womb Loss
For many women, surgery is life-saving or pain-relieving. But even when it’s “necessary,” the aftermath can feel confusing, isolating, and strangely invisible.
There are no community rituals to honour a womb that’s been taken.
There are no grief groups for the uterus.
No language for the emotional ache that lingers.
Instead, there’s often:
Relief, mixed with unexpected grief
Fatigue beyond the physical
A strange disconnection from femininity, sensuality, or creativity
A loss that isn’t recognised, even by those closest to you
And when menopause enters the scene — either suddenly (as with surgical menopause) or later on — these unresolved layers rise again.
Womb Energy Still Lives Within You
My vision is to support woman so they know that;
Even if your womb has been removed or altered…
Even if you can’t feel her physically…
Even if you haven’t thought of her in years…
Your womb energy still lives within you.
Your womb is more than an organ.
It is a centre of:
Creativity
Emotional processing
Sensuality & sexual energy
Intuition & inner knowing
Feminine rhythm & power
When this space is wounded — physically or emotionally — we often experience a kind of energetic amnesia. A forgetting. A numbness.
This is the disconnection.
No, it’s not your fault, you are not to blame… and yes, it can be healed.
What Womb Disconnection Can Look Like
Feeling flat, stuck, or emotionally ‘numb’
Difficulty expressing your needs or accessing desire
A sudden loss of motivation or creativity
Chronic lower back, hip, or digestive issues
Feeling like you’ve lost your “spark” as a woman
For many women in menopause, these feelings intensify — not because menopause is a problem, but because it is a time of reckoning and reawakening. The body whispers truths we’ve tucked away for years.
Reclaiming the Womb Space
Healing your womb isn’t about reversing surgery.
It’s about reconnecting to a vital part of you — on an energetic, emotional, and spiritual level.
Here are a few gentle practices that can support your healing:
1. Daily Womb Touch
Place your hands over your lower belly. Breathe.
Say softly: “I remember you. I honour you.”
This small act can reawaken a sense of presence in your body.
2. Aromatherapy Anointing
Use essential oils like:
Rose for grief and softness
Frankincense for reconnection
Clary Sage for womb wisdom
Dilute in a carrier oil and massage gently over your belly and heart. Let this be a sacred moment of self-love.
3. Womb Journaling
Ask yourself:
What does my womb want me to hear today?
What grief have I not given space to?
What kind of woman am I becoming now?
Let the answers come without judgment.
4. Create a Womb Altar
This can be a candle, a red cloth, a flower, or a crystal placed in your space with intention. Visit it when you feel disconnected.
You Are Not Broken
Womb healing isn’t about returning to who you were — it’s about becoming who you’re meant to be, with all your scars, wisdom, and softness intact.
You are whole.
You are worthy of tending.
Your womb — visible or invisible — still holds power.
If this speaks to you, know that you’re not alone.
This is the work I hold space for.
This is the healing I guide women through — gently, soulfully, sacredly.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Advanced Menopause Coach/ Mentor • Master Aromatherapist •
Making Menopause a Movement not a Mystery
Herbal Tea Blend for Emotional Balance
Herbs have been used for centuries to support emotional and physical well-being. This gentle herbal tea blend is designed to calm the nervous system, uplift the mood, and nourish the body.
Ingredients:
1 tbsp dried chamomile – Reduces anxiety and promotes relaxation.
1 tbsp dried lemon balm – Uplifts mood and eases tension.
1 tsp dried rose petals – Opens the heart and soothes emotions.
1 tsp dried lavender – Calms the mind and helps with restful sleep.
1 tsp dried passionflower – Supports deep emotional healing and reduces stress.
Instructions:
Combine all herbs in a jar and mix well.
Steep 1 tbsp of the blend in hot water for 5-7 minutes.
Strain and sip slowly, inhaling the soothing aroma.
Drink this tea daily or whenever you need emotional balance.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Understanding Burnout & Betrayal Trauma
My Story
This is a somewhat personal blog, one I had no intention of writing, yet the powers of the universe guide us into spaces where everything just aligns up & to dismiss all of this powerful pull is a reminder of just how far you have walked… & to dismiss this, means you are choosing to ignore all of your pain & courage to get this far… Often without realising it, we just don’t recognise how much courage it takes to stay in your own lane… anyway… here goes...
For years, I was the therapist everyone turned to. I built treatments that worked, created healing environments, and poured my soul into helping others recover. I worked in private practice, in healthcare, in retreats—spaces that were meant to be nurturing, holistic, and soul-led.
But the place that was supposed to support me… broke me.
I was working at a renowned holistic retreat—one that claimed to value healing, integrity, and community. I brought my full self to that space: I designed new treatments, supported high-end clients with deep emotional needs, and even brought in outside professional help to enhance client care. I wasn’t just doing a job—I was elevating the whole experience.
My work brought in income for the retreat. My care brought relief to clients. My vision brought expansion.
But when I asked for fair compensation for the value I was creating—everything changed.
I was met not with respect, but with gaslighting and betrayal trauma. I was told clients had “complained” about me. I was asked if I was “on drugs.” Then I was told to just forget it ever happened. The same person who once praised me, now undermined my confidence, my credibility, and my sense of reality.
That moment shattered me.
It wasn’t just stress—it was a betrayal of my profession, my purpose, and my nervous system. What should have been a conversation about value and integrity became a deep wound to my identity.
I walked out. I went to my doctor. I was signed off with stress.
And I haven’t felt the same about my work since.
For a while, I thought it was my fault. That I was “too much.” That I’d caused trouble. That I’d been unprofessional somehow. But now I know the truth:
I was gaslit. I was exploited. I was betrayed by a system that benefited from my work—but couldn’t honour it.
And I’m not the only one.
Too many therapists, carers, healers and empaths have given their hearts to spaces that didn’t protect them. We’ve been taught to hold space for others, but not to advocate for ourselves.
That season in my life led to burnout, soul fatigue, financial instability, and a complete breakdown of trust—not just in others, but in myself.
But here’s what else it did:
It led me here.
To rebuild with power, softness, and sovereignty.
To become the woman who can hold your story—because she’s walked through her own.
To create a new path for midlife women who are ready to come home to themselves.
*There is so much more I want to add to this… & I will… slowly over time I will add more…
With warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Heart-Opening Meditation for Healing and Clarity
Heart-Opening Meditation for Healing and Clarity
The heart is the center of emotional processing, and when grief or sadness builds up, it can feel blocked. This simple yet powerful heart-opening meditation helps release pain, bring clarity, and invite love back into your life.
How to Practice:
Find a quiet space where you won’t be disturbed.
Sit or lie down comfortably, placing your hands over your heart.
Close your eyes and take slow, deep breaths, inhaling love and exhaling sadness.
Visualize a soft pink light surrounding your heart, warming and healing it.
Repeat affirmations such as:
I am held, I am loved, I am healing.
My heart is open to love and peace.
I release pain and embrace healing.
Stay in this space for as long as you need, allowing emotions to surface and be acknowledged.
When finished, place your hands in prayer position and express gratitude for this moment of self-care.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Navigating Grief: Understanding Anticipatory & Unresolved Loss
Grief is a deeply personal journey—one that doesn’t follow a linear path. Whether it arrives suddenly or lingers in the background, grief shapes us in profound ways. But what happens when we experience loss before it even occurs? Or when grief feels stuck, never fully processed? This is where anticipatory and unresolved grief come into focus.
Understanding Anticipatory Grief:
Anticipatory grief is the mourning that begins before an actual loss occurs. This could be due to a terminal diagnosis, witnessing a loved one’s declining health, or sensing the slow erosion of a relationship. Unlike sudden grief, this form allows us time to prepare, yet it carries its own unique weight. The emotions—fear, sadness, and even guilt—can be just as intense as those felt after a loss.
Signs of Anticipatory Grief:
Feeling sadness or mourning before a loss occurs.
Anxiety about what’s to come.
Emotional numbness or exhaustion.
Deep yearning to make the most of the remaining time.
Unresolved Grief: When Healing Feels Out of Reach
Unresolved grief, sometimes called complicated grief, occurs when emotions surrounding a loss remain stuck. Perhaps life forced you to “move on” too quickly. Maybe the loss was traumatic, unexpected, or left too many unanswered questions. Over time, unresolved grief can manifest as chronic sadness, avoidance, or even physical symptoms like fatigue and headaches.
Signs of Unresolved Grief:
Difficulty talking about the loss, even years later.
Avoidance of reminders or places associated with the loss.
Prolonged feelings of guilt, anger, or deep sorrow.
Struggling to find meaning or purpose after the loss.
Healing Through Holistic Practices:
Healing from grief—whether anticipatory or unresolved—is not about “getting over” a loss but about finding ways to integrate it into our lives with love and understanding. Holistic practices can provide gentle, supportive ways to move through grief with compassion.
Aromatherapy for Emotional Healing:
Lavender: Eases anxiety and promotes emotional calm.
Rose: Encourages emotional warmth and self-compassion.
Frankincense: Helps in grounding and spiritual reflection.
Cypress: Supports transitions and emotional release.
Try diffusing these oils, adding them to a bath, or creating a grief-supporting body oil blend.Rituals for Processing Loss:
Journaling letters to the person or situation you’re grieving.
Creating a memory altar with candles, photos, and objects of meaning.
Practicing mindful breathwork to release stored sorrow.
Community & Connection:
Seeking support groups where you can share and listen.
Engaging in therapy or grief coaching to explore emotions safely.
Connecting with nature to find comfort in the rhythms of life and loss.
Final Thought:
Grief is not something to “fix” but something to honour. It is a reflection of love, of deep connections, and of life’s transitions. Whether you are in the midst of anticipatory grief or struggling with unresolved pain, know that healing is possible—and you are not alone.
✨ If this resonates with you, I invite you to explore more holistic healing strategies on my website. Let’s walk this journey together. ✨
Sacred Bathing Ritual for Emotional Release
Sacred Bathing Ritual for Emotional Release
Water is a powerful element for emotional cleansing and renewal. A sacred bathing ritual can help release stagnant emotions, bring a sense of peace, and reconnect you with yourself. This self-care practice is perfect for those experiencing grief, sadness, or overwhelm.
Sacred Bathing Recipe:
2 cups Epsom salts – Relaxes tense muscles and detoxifies the body.
1/2 cup dried rose petals – Opens the heart and invites self-love.
10 drops Frankincense essential oil – Grounds emotions and promotes spiritual healing.
8 drops Lavender essential oil – Soothes the mind and body for deep relaxation.
6 drops Clary Sage essential oil – Helps to balance emotions and clear mental fog.
Instructions:
Run a warm bath and add all ingredients, swirling the water gently.
Light candles and play soft, soothing music to create a serene environment.
Step into the bath and take deep breaths, allowing the water to support and cleanse you.
Visualize releasing any heavy emotions into the water, feeling lighter with each breath.
When ready, drain the water and imagine negativity leaving your body.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
Nourishing Body Oil for Loss, Grief, and Low Mood
Nourishing Body Oil for Loss, Grief, and Low Mood
Grief, loss, and depression can weigh heavily on both the heart and body, leaving us feeling disconnected and drained. In times of emotional healing, self-care rituals can be a powerful way to nurture ourselves, and one of the most soothing rituals is the use of body oils. This deeply nourishing blend is designed to provide comfort, emotional balance, and a sense of grounding for women navigating these difficult emotions.
Ingredients:
50mls Sweet Almond Oil – A gentle, skin-loving oil that provides deep nourishment and hydration.
20mls Jojoba Oil – Balances the skin and helps carry the essential oils deeper into the body.
10mls Rosehip Oil – Rich in vitamins and antioxidants, perfect for skin healing and emotional restoration.
6 drops Frankincense Essential Oil – Encourages deep breathing, emotional healing, and spiritual grounding.
5 drops Lavender Essential Oil – Soothing and calming, it supports relaxation and inner peace.
4 drops Bergamot Essential Oil – Uplifting and balancing, it helps alleviate low moods and depression.
4 drops drops Sandalwood Essential Oil – Anchors emotions and fosters a deep sense of connection and tranquility.
1 drop Rose Essential Oil – Opens the heart, promotes self-love, and offers comfort in grief.
Instructions:
In a clean, dry glass bottle, combine all the carrier oils.
Slowly add each essential oil, swirling the bottle gently to blend.
Store in a cool, dark place for at least 24 hours before first use to allow the oils to synergize.
To use, warm a few drops between your palms and gently massage over your body, focusing on areas of tension like the chest, neck, and shoulders.
Take deep, intentional breaths as you apply the oil, allowing the aroma to soothe your emotions and restore balance.
How This Body Oil Supports Emotional Healing
Self-Love & Heart Healing: Rose and Sandalwood work together to open the heart and bring comfort in moments of sorrow.
Grounding & Stability: Frankincense and Sandalwood provide a sense of emotional steadiness during overwhelming times.
Mood Uplifting: Bergamot and Lavender gently lift the spirits, reducing feelings of sadness and anxiety.
Ritual for Release: The act of applying the oil with care and intention fosters mindfulness and self-compassion.
Incorporate This into Your Daily Ritual
Use this oil in the morning to set a calm and nurturing tone for the day, or in the evening as a way to release the emotions you’ve carried. Pair it with gentle breathwork, meditation, or journaling for deeper healing.
Loss and grief take time, and healing is a journey. Allow yourself the space to feel, to nurture, and to slowly reclaim your light. You are held, you are supported, and you are worthy of deep self-care.
With love and warmth,
Rose
The M-Power Method: Unlocking Your Menopause Archetype
The M-Power Method: Unlocking Your Menopause Archetype
Menopause is more than just a phase—it’s an awakening. It’s a time of profound transformation, where women can step into their true power, embrace their wisdom, and redefine their purpose. That’s where the M-Power Method comes in.
What is the M-Power Method?
The M-Power Method is a holistic framework designed to help women navigate menopause with confidence, clarity, and strength. It focuses on three core pillars:
Mindset – Reframing menopause as a time of empowerment rather than loss. We work on shifting limiting beliefs, embracing self-worth, and cultivating a powerful mindset that supports personal growth.
Body – Understanding the physical changes of menopause and providing holistic strategies to support vitality. From nutrition and movement to essential oils and self-care rituals, this pillar focuses on well-being from the inside out.
Spirit – Connecting with your inner wisdom, honouring your unique archetype, and stepping into a life that aligns with your purpose. This is about self-discovery, intuition, and embracing the next phase of life with intention.
Discovering Your Menopause Archetype
Every woman experiences menopause differently, but we all carry a unique archetype that reflects our inner transformation. The M-Power Method helps you uncover which archetype you resonate with most—whether it’s The Story Keeper, The Wild Woman, The Alchemist or The Sovereign—the M-Power Method allows you to move forward with forward with clarity.
The Benefits of the M-Power Method
Women who embrace the M-Power Method experience:
Renewed Energy & Vitality – Holistic wellness practices that support hormonal balance and overall well-being.
Greater Self-Awareness – Understanding how menopause is shaping your personal evolution and stepping into your authentic self.
Confidence in Transformation – Instead of fearing change, you’ll embrace it as a path to empowerment.
Community & Connection – A sisterhood of like-minded women who are on the same journey, supporting and uplifting one another.
Are You Ready to Step Into Your Archetype?
If you feel the call to reclaim your power, embrace your wisdom, and transform your menopause journey, the M-Power Method is for you. This isn’t just about managing symptoms—it’s about stepping into the next chapter of your life with purpose and passion.
Let’s make menopause a movement, not a mystery.
Which menopause archetype do you resonate with? Let’s start the conversation—leave a comment or reach out. Your journey to empowerment begins now.
With Warmth & Wild Wisdom,
Rose
Menopause Mental Health
Menopause & Mental Health: The Silent Struggle Women Face
Menopause is often reduced to hot flushes and night sweats, but for many women, the most challenging aspect is the toll it takes on mental health. Anxiety, depression, brain fog, and mood swings can feel like they arrive out of nowhere, leaving women questioning their own sanity. And yet, this critical conversation remains in the shadows.
The Overlooked Impact of Menopause on Mental Health
For decades, women have been told to "push through" menopause, as if it's just another inconvenience to be ignored. But research shows that hormonal fluctuations during menopause can significantly impact brain chemistry, leading to anxiety, depression, and even panic attacks. A decline in oestrogen affects serotonin and dopamine—our feel-good neurotransmitters—while rising cortisol levels put the body into a constant state of stress.
Despite this, women’s struggles are often dismissed. Many go to their doctors only to be offered antidepressants without a deeper discussion about what’s really happening. The truth is, menopause is a profound transition, not just physically but emotionally and psychologically.
The Need for a Holistic Approach
Western medicine tends to isolate symptoms rather than addressing the whole person. Holistic healing offers a different perspective—one that acknowledges the deep mind-body connection and the importance of lifestyle, nourishment, and emotional well-being.
Here are some ways women can support their mental health through menopause:
1. Nourishing the Nervous System Adaptogenic herbs like ashwagandha and Triphala help regulate cortisol levels, reducing stress and anxiety. Essential oils such as lavender and clary sage have been shown to balance mood and promote relaxation.
2. Restoring Emotional Balance Journalling, creative expression, and working with archetypes can help women process this life stage in a meaningful way. Menopause is not just an ending—it’s a rebirth into wisdom and deeper self-awareness.
3. Supporting Brain Health A diet rich in omega-3 fatty acids, magnesium, and B vitamins can support cognitive function and mood stability. Ayurvedic practices like Abhyanga (warm oil massage) nourish the nervous system and promote grounding during this transition.
4. Community & Conversation Menopause should not be a lonely journey. Having a safe space to talk openly—whether through menopause cafés, support groups, or online communities—can be transformative. Women heal in connection, not in isolation.
It’s Time to Change the Narrative
Menopause is not a disease. It’s not a condition to be “fixed.” It’s a profound life transition that deserves respect, support, and a holistic approach. Women deserve to have their experiences validated and their health treated with care.
If you’ve been struggling with your mental health during menopause, you are not alone, and you are not broken. There are powerful, holistic tools available to support you. Let’s start having real conversations about menopause and mental health. The silence ends here.
Would you like support on your journey? Join my community, explore my holistic resources, and take the first step toward reclaiming your well-being.
With warmth & Wild Wisdom
Rose
A Chat About Epigenetics & Essential Oils
Reprogramming Your Menopause Experience: How Epigenetics & Essential Oils Can Help.
Hey lovely,
Menopause can feel like it takes over your body and mind, can’t it? One day you’re fine, the next you’re sweating through your sheets at 3 AM, forgetting why you walked into a room, or feeling more emotional than usual. It’s easy to think this is just how it has to be, but what if I told you that you have more control over this transition than you think?
Epigenetics: The Science of Shaping Your Menopause Experience
For years, we were told that our DNA determines everything about us, but science now shows that our lifestyle, habits, and even our thoughts influence how our genes express themselves. This means that while menopause is a natural phase of life, the way you experience it isn’t just pre-written in your genes—it’s shaped by how you live, eat, move, and think.
That’s why stress, nutrition, movement, and self-care all play a massive role in how smoothly (or intensely) you go through menopause. Think of it like this: your genes might set the stage, but you get to direct the show!
How to Use Epigenetics to Support Your Body Through Menopause
Mindset & Stress Reduction
Chronic stress increases cortisol levels, which can worsen menopause symptoms like brain fog, mood swings, and hot flashes. But here’s the good news—simple daily practices can help! Meditation, breathwork, journalling, and positive affirmations rewire your brain and signal to your body that it’s safe to relax.Nourishment for Your Changing Body
Your diet is like a conversation with your body. Eating nutrient-rich foods like leafy greens, healthy fats, and phytoestrogen-rich foods (like flaxseeds and tofu) can help balance hormones. Your gut health also influences menopause symptoms, so incorporating probiotic foods like yogurt and fermented veggies can be a game-changer.The Magic of Movement
Exercise isn’t just about fitness—it’s a way to tell your body that you’re strong and resilient. Gentle activities like yoga, walking, and strength training help regulate hormones, improve mood, and support bone health. Find movement that makes you feel good instead of seeing it as a chore.
Essential Oils: Your Natural Menopause Support System
Essential oils are one of the easiest and most enjoyable ways to support your mind and body through menopause. These powerful plant extracts can help with stress, sleep, hot flashes, and even hormone balance. Here are some of my favorites:
Clary Sage – Helps balance hormones and reduce hot flashes
Lavender – Calming, supports sleep, and eases anxiety
Peppermint – Cooling for those sudden heat surges
Geranium – Supports emotional balance and skin health
Frankincense – Grounding and deeply nourishing for the nervous system
How to use them: Add a few drops to a diffuser, mix with a carrier oil for a relaxing massage, or inhale deeply when you need a moment of calm.
Your Menopause, Your Power
Menopause isn’t something to suffer through—it’s a time to reconnect with your body and take charge of your health in a new way. By embracing the power of epigenetics, nourishing yourself with the right foods, moving in ways that feel good, and incorporating essential oils into your routine, you’re telling your body: I’ve got you.
Join the Conversation!
I’d love to hear how you’re supporting yourself through menopause. Have you tried any of these techniques? Let’s chat in the comments, or come and connect with me on social media!
✨ Read more on how epigenetics can help you create the lifestyle you deserve : HERE